If you’re like me, spring cleaning is right up there with doing your taxes. Similarly, taking an honest look at what needs to be done in your relationships can be challenging. No one wants to admit or face that their relationship needs work or reassessment, and yet doing so can be a refreshing start to a healthier you.
Relationships, just like our homes, need to be refreshed, cleaned up and have the excess removed from them throughout the years.
This list can help you clean up those bad relationships with a little “Spring Cleaning” terminology.
1. Open the windows.
Take the time to clear the air by addressing what needs to be addressed and/or forgiving what needs to be forgiven so you can breathe easier within each relationship. If you can’t let go of the past, forgive or forget, you need to reevaluate what is taking up space in your relationship ‘air’. If you cannot be authentic in your day-to-day feelings, you aren’t in a healthy place nor in a healthy relationship.
2. Get rid of the Junk.
In this case, junk can be relationships that are emotionally draining, verbally abusive or worse, physically harmful to yourself and/or your children. In my opinion this needs to be thrown out immediately. Start putting yourself and your life first!
3. Donate.
Your friendship and understanding can go a long way for a friend or family member in need of a helpful hand or a shoulder to lean on. Going through divorce or separation can be difficult to do alone. On the flip-side, sharing your feelings with others can help you realize you aren’t alone in this journey; that there is life after divorce. Be a good friend or relative and donate your time in whatever capacity you can.
No one can tell you if you are ready for a divorce, but when you know you have the support around you, making that next step can be that much easier. Good luck to you and let us know how we can help.
For more information, and a complimentary consultation call the Law Office of Steven B. Chroman, P.C. today at 661-255-1800. Author of the number one best selling divorce workbook, please visit www.chromanlaw.com.
This article was originally published in Santa Clarita Magazine as part of our firm’s mission to make family law information more accessible to the Santa Clarita community. Read the full feature and others at santaclaritamagazine.com.