Divorced parents may find themselves in a unique situation when their children go back to school. When parents are no longer together, important information about children is not as easily conveyed. As a result, there may be gaps in a parent’s knowledge as to what is going on in a child’s life and how he or she is doing.
Parents who seek involvement in their children’s lives are eager for information. If communication between divorced parents is not consistent and forthcoming, tension can arise. Because these issues may inspire long-term frustration if left unresolved, parents should proactively work through any contentious issues as their child starts school.
Tips and Solutions
When in doubt about how to approach parental communication, always return to the standard of what is best for the children. This standard is what a court will seek to uphold, should unresolved issues be brought before a judge. As a result, this standard will almost always provide a parent with guidance as to what to do. Setting aside issues that parents have in order for the children to remain balanced should be the important goal.
Parents should ideally communicate before the child starts school about the routine. This plan should address who will be responsible for picking the child up on what days and who will get the child ready in the morning. Having a solid routine and sticking to it gives the child structure. Explaining the routine to the child is crucial, so that he or she will know what to expect and will ultimately feel more secure as a result.
Parents should also make sure that they maintain ongoing open communication with each other. For example, both parents should be informed when a parent teacher conference is coming up, how a child does on tests and what event the child has for the upcoming weeks. It is almost always in the child’s best interest to have both parents involved.
Parents also should notify their child’s school of the recent divorce and update contact information. It is important that the school knows whom to call when the child is sick and who may pick the child up. Sometimes children have difficulty understanding divorce and they may experience emotional changes. Some schools may have special programs for these children, or offer special counseling so they are able to get the extra support that they need.
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